Meshuggeneh Thanksgivukkah!

There's been a lot of talk about this year's convergence of Thanksgiving and Hanukkah, spawning online chatter full with wonderful recipes, decorations and activities. There are Pinterest Boards, websites and Facebook events feverishly discussing how we can best celebrate two holidays at once, with our Turkey

Turkey Menorah created by local PJ Library family, the Fridmans.

menorahs, acorn dreidels, and cranberry applesauce to accompany our latkes. As a creative person myself, I love all these discussions and the excitement I see whenever the rapidly approaching "Thanksgivukkah" is mentioned.

I also am sensitive to the fact that there are some built in downsides for families to this once in a 70,000 year holiday "collision". The question of: "With whom and where do we go for Thanksgiving/Hanukkah?" is never more daunting now that the Thanksgiving weekend also encompasses half of the nights of Hanukkah. 

For many families there are always decisions about where to go for Thanksgiving, especially when family is not local. Here in the greater Palm Beaches, this is true for over 75% of our local young families. Yes, most parents of young families raising Jewish children do not have their own parents living here locally. This may seem odd for a community rich in grandparents, but it is true. For some, this scenario may lead to some difficult decisions and some stress. Where "balancing" the family time by splitting Thanksgiving and Hanukkah visits were the solution in the past, this year it is not an option. Not to mention, our local children's winter break will NOT include a Jewish holiday this year.

So, what to do? CELEBRATE Thanksgivukkah in the best way you can, with whomever you can; it is a once in lifetime experience for everyone to enjoy. CREATE other times and occasions to celebrate with other family members in December. There are four Shabbats in the month, make one (or more) special! USE technology to "virtually" bring others to your Thanksgiving/Hanukkah dinner table or candle lighting.
READ a great Hanukkah story together, there's so many to choose from on the PJ Library website. FIND a local Hanukkah event or program to attend with your children. Thanksgivukkah will be one of those holidays no one will forget, so make it "unforgettable" for you and your family.

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Gobble Tov!

Holiday Reality Check

This one statistic always throws me for a loop: “only 20% of our young families raising Jewish children in the Greater Palm Beaches have an older generation living locally”. Hard to believe, but it’s true. Most of them do not have their own mothers or fathers living close by. One would think with the amount of residents over 50 in this community that this statistic would be higher---but it is not.

So, what does this mean? It means that the older generation, the ones who typically are the keepers of the family’s Jewish traditions, recipes and customs are not here to pass them along. Sure, recipes can be emailed and Skype sessions at holiday dinner time can take place, but the reality is-- our local parents are on their own. Or are they?

Instead of this scenario creating a dearth of Jewish life and celebration, quite the opposite seems to be to happening. Many local parents without local family around have reached out to each other, creating their own “new traditions” and forming groups to celebrate together and share customs.

Potluck holiday dinners and fun impromptu gatherings seem to be the solution. There’s challah baking, groups going to services together, Break the Fast meals and lots of “celebrating” happening. It may not be the same without grandma’s chicken soup or your favorite uncle’s stories, but it is happening HERE.

I wonder what their next steps will be.  How will our local families raising young Jewish children continue to connect each other and to their Jewish community? Only time will tell. I only hope they continue to take advantage of ALL this community has to offer, here’s to a great 5774!

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Friedman CJE’s calendar of events for Young Families Raising Jewish Children: https://www.cjepb.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=184&Itemid=355
 

Playing with Dolls

I never played with dolls when I was a little girl. I enjoyed my matchbox cars, blocks and my collection of miniature NFL helmets (I could name each team and their hometown by the time I was 10). This is why it is baffling to me how 30 years later, I can be so in love with two adorable dolls.


Bim and Bom's traveling house
was lovingly built by
 local PJ Library dad, Howard Fleischer
and beautifully painted by PJ mom and
Meyer Art teacher, Adrienne Turk.


Bim (the girl doll-carpenter) and Bom (the boy doll-baker) are part of the traveling curriculum project we created here at the Commission for Jewish Education to visit schools, Jewish community centers and synagogues  around our community (the Greater Palm Beaches) this year. They are the brother/sister main character duo from the PJ Library book, Bim and Bom, A Shabbat Tale by Daniel J. Swartz. They, along with their associated curriculum materials (created in part by local educators) and interactive components, are visiting classrooms (early childhood- 2nd grade) and joining in at family events and programs throughout the community.

Bim and Bom are actually the third traveling curriculum project the CJE has created and shared with the community. I am always amazed at what each location, school, class, teacher, student, child, mother, father, grandparent, etc. does with them. Yesterday was a "travel day" for Bim and Bom which means they come back to me for a quick refreshing (and a hug) before they carry on to their next location. I carefully fix them up, straighten their hair, wash their clothes and make sure the kit has everything it needs to go to the next stop.   I also take a minute to peek at their "scrapbook" which is a record of everything they do. Teachers paste in photos of what they did with the dolls and they record the curriculum pieces that "grew" from the students in response to Bim and Bom. They share what the students wanted to investigate as a class, and what Bim and Bom inspired them to learn about. You would not believe where a 4-year-old can go in his/her little mind after reading about how Bom bakes challah each week for those who can not afford it.


Inside the house on wheels is where all
 the scrapbook,  curriculum binders, music, and of course,
Bim and Bom are stored.


Yes, I love these dolls---not because they are soft and adorable and almost three feet tall, but because they are already inspiring the children in our community to think about mitzvot, to cherish their siblings and to explore new ideas. I love these dolls because they are challenging teachers to listen to their students and to let them steer the course for where today's lesson plans may go. And now, as I pack Bim and Bom into their house once more, I know that when I see them back here in about a month, I will love them even more.

For more information about this project, contact Amy Bergman, a.bergman@cjepb.org or Robyn Hurvitz r.hurvtiz@cjepb.org.

If You Build It, They Will Come!

     I am well aware that most Jewish families in the Greater Palm Beaches do not build their own sukkah. Maybe that's why I feel so compelled each year to invite everyone and anyone I know to come visit ours. It's kind of another excuse to have mini-parties all week long: breakfast get-togethers, family dinners, afternoon snack and swim parties. I am very good at coming up with an occasion for any time of day.
    This has made me wonder why others don't build one of their own? I know it can seem to be a huge and expensive undertaking, but it doesn't have to be. For years, I have seen many families use simple materials from Home Depot or Lowe's to make a small pvc framework for a "Florida-friendly" backyard sukkah. There are lots of websites (below) and even some creative ideas on Pinterest that can help too. This can be a another great way for you and your children to do something TOGETHER in this new year. How about using a large cardboard box to make an indoor playhouse sukkah for your next play date? Or, making a dollhouse sukkah from a small box? All I am saying is, however you decide to build it, I promise, if you build it, they will come and YOU will be glad you did!

Information about local Sukkot events:
CJE Online Calendar of Events.
Sukkah Building/Purchasing Resources:
http://www.myjewishlearning.com/holidays/Jewish_Holidays/Sukkot/At_Home/The_Sukkah/Laws/Building_a_Sukkah.shtml
http://www.sukkahdepot.com/
Fun Sukkot Ideas:
http://voices.yahoo.com/sukkah-crafts-kids-during-sukkot-5143571.html
General Information about Sukkot:
http://www.pjlibrary.org/parents-and-families/reading-tips-and-resources/jewish-holidays/sukkot-and-simchat-torah.aspx

Summertime Jewishness

     My Facebook newsfeed has been filled this week with Pre-K and Kindergarten graduation pictures (too cute!), last day of school shots and dance recital videos. It must be time for summer. Hooray!
     This has gotten me thinking about how we spend our summertime. Of course there are camps to choose, vacations to plan, but what about our "Jewishness"? Without any major Jewish holidays during June, July, and August, do we stop being Jewish? Now, of course the answer to that is "No". So I guess the question is really, what can we do to celebrate our "Jewishness" all summer long?

     I've posted in years past about how I've made my family vacation include Jewish customs, rituals, and celebrations. But now I am thinking about the whole summer. Jewish day camps and sleep away camps are a wonderful way to instill the love for Judaism, Jewish culture, music, etc. And, many synagogues locally still offer Shabbat services (Friday evening or Saturday) all summer long. As a matter of fact, these summer services are usually more laid back, offered earlier, and often are shorter. What a great way to expose young kids to temple worship! To find something close to you, checkout our online calendar : https://www.cjepb.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=184&Itemid=355
     For me, I think turning any summer activity into a something Jewish can be fun. A backyard BBQ on a late Friday afternoon/evening can become an outdoor Shabbat meal. A Saturday afternoon at the beach can become dinner and Havdalah service. I've always wanted to plan a Pop-Up Shabbat in a fun outdoor location. All you need is list of your friends and a place. Then you email, text or post on Facebook and/or Twitter a location you choose for a Pop-Up Shabbat location. Ask others to bring an item or food dish. What a fun and different way to celebrate with other families.
     And then there's the obvious for me.....reading our favorite PJ Library (http://www.pjlbrary.org/) books together and discussing the stories and the Jewish values and ideas in each one. These ideas (and others I am sure you can think of) all take very little planning but can have a big impact. I say, summertime is not a vacation from our "Jewishness" but rather another chance to make it fun for the whole family. And, if you need a little help to make it happen, you know where to find me, a.bergman@cjepb.org.

Passover Happens!

No matter where you are, who is visiting, which kid is sick, or what is happening in your life, Passover happens. This was made very clear to me by a friend last week as we started to talk about this iconic Jewish holiday and how to make it memorable for everyone at our seder table. This year, Passover happens starting with the First Seder on Friday, April 6th.  I can feel the rise in

 the anxiety level of some of my friends, I can see it in the eyes of some of the PJ library parents I run into. I say, fret not, have no fear, we can tackle this Passover, Seder and all, with gusto while having a good time.

I know one BIG fear is, what will the kids do at the Seder table? Will they behave? Will they embarrass you? What can you do to prepare them? These are valid concerns, but when looked at in a different light, and when expectations are realistic, and with some preparation, a Seder can be a joyful experience that you and your children will talk about all year.

There are so many great resources available to us: local workshops for parents about how to lead a seder or to prepare a seder meal (visit http://www.cjepb.org/ to see full calendar), online chat rooms about Passover menus and recipes, books for children (I recommend No Matzoh for Me by Nancy E. Krulik) and even a downloadable (is that a word?) 30 Minute Seder Haggadah (http://www.30minuteseder.com/) whose testimonials claim to “save Passover” by blending tradition with brevity. I also like this easy to use guide online for a Developmentally Appropriate Pesach Seder for children ages 4 & 5 designed by the URJ (Union for Reform Judaism). There's a funny look with helpful tips in an article online called, “Sedering with Kids”.

These are all great places to start. And starting early is the key. Begin talking with your children NOW about the upcoming holiday in language and on a level they understand.

• Take out Passover children’s books from the public library (or from your own PJ Library at home) and read them nightly for the weeks leading up to the holiday.
• Download free Passover coloring pages from the internet and hang them around your home.
• When the big night(s) come, assign jobs for the kids at the Seder: passing out of the kippot, serving the matzoh, going to wash their hands, opening the door for Elijah, etc.

These will all get the kids focused on a task and take them out of their seats enough so that they won’t get fidgety during the Seder.

Some other tips:

• Seat the children with the adults. I have found that creating a “kids table” is nothing more than asking for trouble.
• Invest in some on the table distractions (a bag of plagues toys or finger puppets of the Seder plate objects) and incorporate them into your Seder meal.
• Use your child’s favorite Passover book to tell the story of the Exodus instead of the one in your own Haggadah.

Most importantly, if you are excited, the kids will be excited. Passover is a totally interactive experience for the whole family to treasure. Still nervous about Passover happening? Contact me with questions and concerns, I am here to help and connect you in the Greater Palm Beaches.
Amy, a.bergman@cjepb.org



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Great and Grand-Why Grandparents are Gold!

It takes a community to raise a Jewish child, and that community includes grandparents. Here in the Greater Palm Beaches, we are blessed with many Jewish grandparents. And whether the grandparents in your life live locally or far way, they bring a wealth of experience, knowledge, and love that cannot be duplicated or replicated. Jewish grandparents represent the greatest untapped resource for influencing the lives and values of their grandchildren. This, coupled with the data we have about the importance of reading to young children, creates the perfect opportunity for them to share your Jewish heritage and history with them.


Nearly half the grandchildren of Jewish grandparents today are not being raised Jewishly, signaling a major shift in the spiritual make-up of American Jewish families. Books, specifically Jewish books, are a wonderful way to start important conversations with youngsters, bringing them even closer together.

There are many ways to weave storytelling and book reading into the shared time between child and grandparent. Here are some suggestions: 

• Take your grandchildren (whether they are visiting or live locally) to a FREE Jewish Story time at our local Jewish Community Center (www.jcconline.com).
• Read Jewish books to them: you can have FREE high-quality, age appropriate books sent them locally (or in over 130 communities in the U.S.) through The PJ Library® program, a national program created by the Harold Grinspoon Foundation and implemented locally by The Friedman Commission for Jewish Education, that mails high-quality Jewish books to local children ages 6 months-6 years old. The “PJ” is for pajamas as this program was developed with bedtime reading in mind. Register at http://www.pjlibrary.org/
• Podcasting — an Internet technology that allows users to record and distribute audio — has created a communication whirlwind for grandparents to broadcast their voices to grandkids, wherever they reside. Learn more: http://www.grandparents.com/gp/content/expert-advice/long-distance-grandparenting/article/podcastlongdistancebedtimestory.html#ixzz1ZobdoDvl
• Use a list of PJ Library books to pick the perfect book to buy at a bookstore or borrow at your local public library or synagogue library to share with your grandchildren http://www.pjlibrary.org/books-and-music.aspx

Reading together can be a special time for grandparents and grandchildren to spend together. Developmentally, it is important for young children need to hear stories read to them in different voices and in varied settings. As we get closer to National Jewish Book Month (November), grandparents should take some time whether in person, over the phone, via Skype or Podcast, to share a book!

 

For information about The PJ Library in the Greater Palm Beaches or The Grandparents Circle (free 5 session course for grandparnets with a grandchild being raised in an interfaith home), contact Amy Bergman, Director of Jewish Family Life at 561-209-2608, a.bergman@cjepb.org